The Voice in your head
I am always intrigued by the way we talk to ourselves. Especially in times of turmoil. The tone of that conversation reveals quite a bit about us. And, has a real influence on our ability to remain resilient.
The compound effect is actually where the difference comes in. Repeated negative messages hurt our confidence and self-belief over time. Therefore we must be vigilant about the way we speak to ourselves.
And in this case, especially during times of intense pressure, or disappointment, or trauma. The initial words we use end up framing the conversation going forward. We do create that reality to a certain degree.
2020 continues to challenge our mental reserves. I am hyper-aware about the way in which I talk to myself in these times. In no way do I want to go down a negative spiral, willingly.
So what do I say to myself?
Here are 5 easy sentences I use to pause the moment, or get perspective, or to maintain a good mindset.
- What is within my control right now?
This helps me to quickly assess where I should focus my energy and attention and prevents me from feeling too overwhelmed by things I can’t control.
- You are doing well.
Yes, I know, this seems funny. But we all can do with some encouragement or affirmation now and again. Often it comes down to us.
- Keep on moving.
Momentum is valuable. We can slow down. But to completely stop creates a bigger challenge. So moving is often literal, but mostly figuratively. Do something that pushes you forward.
- Open the curtains.
When you are in your room, alone, curtains closed, your view and vision are limited. If you are going through a bad patch, it is tough to see something that excites you of gives you hope. Often I get up, open the curtains, and see the sun is shining, or there is a bird nesting in the tree close-by, or I feel a cool breeze. Mentally, opening the curtains is crucial.
- Take a breath.
Many a good thing happens when we breathe enough and correctly. Often we stop doing this. If I remind myself and take a minute to focus on my breathing, it is remarkable to see how something always shifts inside myself after that minute.
All of these of course work better, and quicker, once your brain gets used to them. Classical conditioning.
Our response, and therefor our resilience, is often tied to the way we think or speak or about something. Make sure you are your own best friend in this regard.